Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt
I am a revert and I have not informed my parents about it. This is because I feel they may either cut relations with me or take me back home and force to follow their religion. I am able to practice Islam because I live alone in another city and they are unaware of my conversion. I want to get married to a Muslim but I do not have a walī (guardian). I am also worried if I pass, my parents or relatives may conduct my final rites according to their religion. Please advise.
Jazāk Allāh Khayr/ Thank you for your question.
Congratulations / Mā shā Allāh on your reversion to Islam. We pray that the Almighty continue to bless you and protect you.
Practicing your religion is between you and the Almighty. It is not an obligation to inform anyone of your religious practice, especially if you fear danger.
In marriage, if your father or an uncle etc. cannot be your guardian, the local imam or a Muslim elder in your community can assume the position of walī for the nikāḥ.
In regards to your death and final rites, you can register a will and final testament, which can include how you would want to be buried. This becomes a legal document which no one can oppose.
Even though, your close family and parents may not be Muslim, we advise you to display good conduct and respectful mannerism to them.
May Allāh facilitate success.
And Allāh Knows Best
This answer was collected from Mathabah.org. It’s an Islamic educational institute based in Canada. The questions are generally answered by Sheikh Yusuf Badat and Sheikh Omar Subedar.