Firstly, if your husband does not allow you to let the children stay with their grandparents, then you must obey him. However, your husband may not prevent you from visiting your parents once every week. (See: Fataawa Qadi Khan 1/371, 383 pub. al-Ilmiyyah; Shaami: 4/287; 5/328 pub. Darul Ma’rifa)
Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger (Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said, “The woman who offers her (daily) five prayers, fasts in her month (i.e. in the month of Ramadan), safeguards her chastity and obeys her husband may enter paradise from any of its doors.” (Mishkaat pg. 281 pub. Qadeemi)
However, if you just want to know the ruling of the Shariah in regards to letting the children stay with their non-Muslim grandparents during the weekends etc, then it is as follows:
It will not be permissible to let the children stay with their non-Muslim grandparents or relatives in the following cases:
- If the children have reached such an age that they can distinguish between different religions and their practices. The jurists have deemed this age to be seven years.
- If there is fear of them becoming fond of non-Islamic beliefs, practices and lifestyle, even if they have not reached the age of seven years.
- If there is fear of them being fed haram food.
If none of the cases mentioned above apply, it will be permissible to let the children stay with their non-Muslim grandparents over the weekend.
Mufti Faizal Riza