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Is there anything wrong for the family members to be the ones selecting the groom for the bride?

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Assalamualaikum Mufti saab,

                                          My sister is going to be married by next 45 days, but iam feeling very guilty, bcoz the groom which me and my family has choosen is very dark in complexion compared to my sister(she is very fair).But with her consent only we have fixed this marriage.But i dont no why iam feeling guilty now for my sister,do i bcome enemy(gunhagar) of her in future.(Not: The groom(boY) is very religious,having beard and well educated)

Plz hide my name and id…

JAZAKALLAH in advance for your response……..

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

In principle, the marriage takes place with the consent of the boy and the girl who are willing to marry. If they are both pleased in marrying one another, the marriage will be valid.[1] If the groom was selected with the consent of your sister, you will not be blameworthy. However, if she is coerced into this relationship, then the family members should try looking for another boy for her with whom she is pleased with.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Abdul Hannan Nizami,
Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, USA

Checked and Concurred by,
Moulana Abdul Azim bin Abdur Rahman

Moulana Ismail Desai

 


[1] قال: ” النكاح ينعقد بالإيجاب والقبول بلفظين يعبر بهما عن الماضي ” لأن الصيغة وإن كانت للإخبار وضعا فقد جعلت للإنشاء شرعا دفعا للحاجة ” وينعقد بلفظين يعبر بأحدهما عن الماضي وبالآخر عن المستقبل مثل أن يقول زوجني فيقول زوجتك (الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي، ج1ص185، دار احياء التراث العربي)

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