Assalaamu alaykum
my question has not yey been answered
When I was alone with this man in his car, he has me to marry him and I agreed and then I asked him to marry me and he agreed.
A week later he jokingly asked me again infront of two other men.
Are we married islamically?
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
As Muslims we are very fortunate to be the followers of such a Deen which is complete and comprehensive. In our daily lives we should be cautious of how we interact and socialise with people. Intermingling of sexes is not permissible in Islam, One should abstain from the opposite gender (Ghair Mahram) in order to save one’s self from Fitna and Haraam.
Secondly the act of Nikah should not be taken as a joke, Nikah is a great Sunnah of our Beloved Prophet Sallalahu Allaihi Wassalam. If one takes it to be a joke one would be sinful.
Hence there are two issues to your question:
In the first instance the Nikah would not take place due to not having any witnesses.
In the second instance if you replied in the affirmative in the presence of the two witnesses, he would become your husband and he would have to live with you bearing in mind the Shari obligations of a husband, i.e. to maintain his wife, provide shelter and clothing.
Mahr-Mithl (It is that amount of Mahr which women similar to her in her family will receive) will be binding upon the husband.
ولا ينعقد نكاح المسلمين إلا بحضور شاهدين حرين عاقلين بالغين مسلمين رجلين أو رجل وامرأتين عدولا كانوا أو غير عدول أو محدودين في القذف
(306 ص, 2هداية ج )
ويصح النكاح وإن لم يسم فيه مهر … فلا يحتاج إلى ذكره لصحة النكاح
) هداية ج2 ,ص323(
وان تزوجها على أن لا مهر لها فلها مهر مثلها إن دخل بها أو مات عنها
) هداية ج2, ص324(
And Allah knows best
Wassalaamu `alaykum
Ml. Luqman Hansrot,
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah