I am a 33 years old girl, beautilf and from a very good family el hamdullelah. I am very attached to my God and i try my best to win the akhira isa. I got engaged 3 times and was not successful and my last engagement i loved him madly and he passed away in a car accident and isa will be in paradise now. I still love this man madly even though he is not in this life anymore and i pray for him all the time and pray that god reuinite us again in paraidse inshallah. I dont wish to marry and i am satisifed with what God written to me, i am doing my best to protect myself and be a good girl. Am i doing anything haram? by making this choide? i mean will god be mad or upset with me because i decide notto marry? i dont believei will lvoe any person and i believe if i marry my heart will be with my fiance so i dont wantto marry just for the sake of marriag,e please advise.
Jazakallah for writing to the institute regarding your uncertainty about getting married after the loss you have suffered. May Allah Ta’ala comfort and guide you in your loss and open the doors of happiness for you in this world and the hereafter, ameen.
Sister, it is pleasing to note that you are attached to Allah Ta’ala. Only He knows what tests each one of us are to undergo in our lifetime.
Alhamdulillah, we have not been created in vain. You are still young and have a lifetime ahead of you, insha’allah. You are feeling your loss strongly at the moment and no doubt you have difficulty in seeing any future joy or happiness at the moment. Allah Ta’ala has not meant for us to be in a permanent state of grief and loss. My dua is that you will soon be able to experience the joys of life again, ameen.
Be that as it may, if you really think that you will not be able to fulfill the rights of a husband and that marriage may make you unhappy, then perhaps it may be wise to the option of not marrying. You have to however keep in mind that there are many temptations out there and you will have to be mindful of the fact that you will have to strive to maintain your chastity as shaitaan is your greatest enemy. Do you think you will be able to meet this challenge with success? May Allah Ta’ala guide and protect you , ameen.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best.
Sister Fadila
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