Assalaamualaikum I’m a twenty two year old female, and I have met someone I am ready to get married to. Alhamdulillah he is an Aalim and a qari. My parents, on the other hand don’t want to give it a chance. They refuse to even meet him. I don’t know what to do because I just have positive thoughts about this. I acknowledge that meeting him out of nikkah was wrong but I just want to make it right. Please advice. Jazakallah
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Your parents have love for you and experiences of life. Their opinion should be viewed with the love they have for you and insight of issues. If you still strongly feel inclined to the person in reference, consider discussing the issue with an appropriate wise person who has influence on your father to intervene on your behalf if he supports your opinion.
Remember, you cannot take a chance in marriage. It is a lifelong issue. Exercise caution and also make Istikhara.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Ridhwan Ur Rahman
Student Darul Iftaa
Cardiff, Wales, UK
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.