My husband of 14 years, and father of my three kids, has taken a second wife. This is something he was clear about before we married, and I had accepted it. I asked him to do it secretly. Four months ago, he told me that he married a woman. We now will be splitting time. I was genuine in accepting her for the sake of Allah, but I feel my husband questions my true intention. How do I prove my intention?
Thank you for your question. I truly respect that you have sacrificed so much for the sake of Allah, and I pray that you will be rewarded as such, by his Generosity.
Allah sees all. Your sincere intention is all that you need, and you do not need to prove anything to your husband. You have accepted it, and you are going along in life fulfilling your obligations and caring for your dependents. This is all that matters. Rather, your husband is the one who should make his intention is pure, but that is between him and his Lord, which does not concern you either. May Allah grant you patience, ease, and happiness in this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.