Answered by Shaykh Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf Mangera
I seem to always befriend those older and of more experience than me. Although I do not think I am that young, but I speak to a sister who is married to someone in which I care about and don’t like to hurt. Her husband is an Islamic man who is known in the community. Although sometimes I catch the sister in lies. She sometimes says things I did not say, I was wondering what was the right manner of approaching this. I don’t want to say something that hurts either one of them.
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent the Most Merciful.
Your question is unclear as to how your friend’s lying effects you and who she lies to. One should always be wise in approaching any situation, and attempt to not aggravate a situation further and make it a greater problem than it is. If the lies effect in you in someway then you have the right to politely clarify yourself to the person who is being lied to. If you call this person your friend then you should be able to guide her through Qur’an and hadith literature, relevant stories and accounts of the champions of truth and the liars, on the detriments of lying and the virtues of the truth. Such stories can be found under the chapters of truth and falsehood in Riyad al-Salihin, Mishkat al-Masabih and other hadith works.