Q: I have a bit of a dilemma. I am a very sensitive and emotional person and I find it very hard to make friends. The friends I have are very loud spoken and speak to me with no respect and are rude to me, but i don’t tell anyone because I don’t want people thinking bad about them. But recently I feel so hurt with the way that they treat me I think bad thoughts, for example I wish bad upon them. I don’t know how to stop thinking like that and I really want to stop! Example today they all ganged up on me because I told my mother that boys stay over at their house but I was not spreading rumors, I was just telling my mother because I was at their house at the time and they blame me for their parents stressing as we are studying away from home so basically I was labled as the bad one. Basically I just want to know how to react or handle their behavior and should I approach them and tell them how I feel? But they get very angry and it has to be their way so I really don’t know what to do! I am also studying away from home and I do not like it and I am very unhappy. Please help me!
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)