Q: My son is divorced for 2 years and started a relationship with another girl, he impregnated the girl (Muslim girl) and for a year he has been sleeping off and on at the girls house and the girls parents have allowed him to stay there during the weekends. He has committed a big major sin (zina). What really puzzles me that the family of the girl condones this behaviour. A child was born on last Saturday and they giving the child’s name on this Saturday coming and we were invited. I told my wife we will not attend this gathering because all that will attend are collaborating in sin because they and their friends have accepted this situation to be OK. My question is, am I doing the right thing by not going and secondly he did not invited us in person but by SMS please advise. My son does not go to mosque,does not live like a muslim, swearing very bad and ugly words at his ex-wife. He wants to take his son to stay with this girl and he teaches his son from the first marriage that this girl is the child’s step mother. He even teaches his son to call his mother a _____ . The child is only 4 years old. We try to instil Islamic values into this masoom child, but he teaches the child ugly words and adult phrases to say to his mother (ex wife). He gave his first wife three talaqs in one go, just so that he can have more time for his friends. He has no respect to his own mother and told her on several occasions that she is dead. He does not make salaam to his mother. He comes there sometimes because the child sleeps by us and that’s it.
A: Since no nikaah has taken place between the boy and girl, the life they are leading is a life of zina. Attending such a function is impermissible as it will be condoning their actions and the haraam life they are leading. You should speak to the jamaat brothers of the locality to befriend you son and advise him to perform nikaah with the girl he is involved with.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best.
وَتَعاوَنوا عَلَى البِرِّ وَالتَّقوىٰ وَلا تَعاوَنوا عَلَى الإِثمِ وَالعُدوٰنِ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ شَديدُ العِقابِ ﴿المائدة: ٢﴾
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)