Q: I need advice for a girl. Basically she got pressurised into marrying this guy. She didnt really want to get married to him but anyway she married him to make her father happy. Anyway, shes been married a month and she says that she is not attracted to him at all. I think people pressurised her coz his a mufti himself, his dads a mufti and the family are full of aalimahs.
When they first met they put a shart of safeguarding her niqab and her family expected it as the boys family are ulama.Hhowever, from her wedding day, respect was not shown to that as his cousins just freely walked upstairs and went in the same room as her.
Its very cold where she lives so her niqab was getting stuck to her face so her husband goes to her to put a scarf around her face instead. She thought that he is a mufti so she must just listen to him but when she is in some shops he would tell her to take off the scarf from her face and once, he even pulled it down. When they went to eat, she kept on covering her face because of the men but he was laughing at her and was implying that there is no need to cover her face when they go out to eat (like everyones eating and not looking at you).
No one in the family is strict on sharee parda and she fears safeguarding her parda if she moves in with his family. They want her to live in a joint family sytem and it does not seem that living seperate is an option. When she raised the issue about niqqab (this was at the same time when she had told him she was pressurised to marry him), he said this was just a petty masala like she was bringing up an excuse to get out of the marriage and he says that his family are very strict on niqab (which they clearly are not). She doesnt even feel attracted to him. What should she do?
A: She should discuss the matter with her parents and the elders of her family.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)