Q: I know a girl for 7 years. In the last 6 months we started developing feelings for each other and dated a few times but nothing physical. We have decided to stop dating so that it does not damage our future together. We plan on getting married in 3 years time. Is it permissible to read istikaarah salaah now even though we plan on getting married later and what is your advice for this period of time?
A: The hadeeth says that when the match is found you should marry straight away. How can you gain the special help of Allah Ta`ala if you delay this and go against the teaching of Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)