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Finding Peace and Love in My In-Law’s Home: My Struggle as a Young Married Woman

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Q: I am a 22 years old married girl. It’s been 2 years that I am married and have no children yet because my husband wanted me to study further. I live with my in-laws and I am having problems with the way I feel ignored time to time. I sometimes am the centre of attention and other times they’re all in a gloomy mood and I feel uncomfortable sitting between them. I want to be heard and I am having anxiety issues and other problems because of the stress I am taking. Kindly tell me an effective dua for value, importance and love between me and my family and a happy life, I would be grateful.


A: In life, there will be many challenges that one will go through. However, one will have to persevere patiently and learn how to overlook the shortcomings of people. One should make a concerted effort to improve one’s character when dealing with people in general and one’s family and in-laws in particular. Similarly, one should adopt an approach of cooperating and assisting one another in good. Mistakes are bound to take place among people. Hence we should learn to forgive and overlook and be more concerned about fulfilling the obligations we owe to others and less concerned about demanding our rights. Fulfil the rights of your husband and your in-laws at all times and overlook their weaknesses and shortcomings. Allah Ta’ala will soften their hearts towards you and bless you with inner happiness. To create unity and mahabbat within your family, recite the attached dua after Salaah.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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