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My Struggle as a Second Wife: Unfair Treatment and Hidden Marriage

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Q: I am married to a man who has already a first wife and children I am his second wife. I am very upset. I married him but my parents don’t know About the marriage and his parents either don’t know but his wife does. About our marriage, he lives with her I always fight with him over one thing I told him why don’t you meet me more and for long time why always for few hours every 2 weeks because he lives three and a half hours far from where I live he doesn’t text me in front of her, he doesn’t call me in front of her but he does all this when he is with me. I feel hurt with this behaviour. I told him you are not treating me well and fair. All he has to tell me that he will be fair with me once I come live with him but my parents do not know about our nikah. So I told him you have to wait but you have to treat me fair in eyes of Allah. I am your wife. Please help me.


A: I suggest that you announce your nikaah and then demand your equal rights. All these problems are on account of you marrying secretly.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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