Q: I want to know if it is wrong for the mother of a physically disabled 55 year old male resident in the UK to try to persuade a unknown divorced female with 18 month old daughter in Pakistan to come to the UK on a student visa with intention of marrying the disabled male and to leave her baby daughter behind and forget about her. I am worried that this is morally wrong. Lying about intentions to enter another country and to separate a young baby from her mother when it may or may not be possible for the male to fulfill the rights of a wife in the relationship of marriage. Further more instead of accepting the young baby and offering to care for her and raise her as a family member the mother has said they will never provide anything for her and if female wants her baby daughter to join her in the future she cannot. I am losing sleep over this matter and very concerned that this is very unfair treatment amounting to zulm. Please advise. As far as I know the mother just wants a ‘free’ housemaid and cleaner for herself and her son although Allah Ta’ala knows best. There is absolutely no need for the mother to worry about her or her disabled son being looked after in the future as she has three other children all married and independent who look after them.
A: It is not right to abandon the child and leave under these circumstances.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)