I have regularly visited your website of “ask imam.org” & really appreciate the knowledge available there.
I am really in need of help & want help..please help me out..
I have very strong feelings for a shia muslim girl & realy want to marry her . I knew that I have to convert to islam in order to do that. Initailly that was the only reason I wanted to convert to islam but after learning about the religion, i am personally interested to convert & adopt the religion.Regarding this i had a few questions & i really need help from the right sourses.
When i convert & marry a muslim girl, both of us would want to follow Islam in the house, but how do i handle that with fulfilling my responsibilities towards my mother as she is my only family.
awaiting your reply..
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Salamun Ala Manittabal Huda (May peace be upon those who follow the straight path).
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We commend you for separating your interest in Islam from marriage. One should accept Islam on strong and sound grounds. You should study more about Islam and once you are convinces that Islam is the only religion accepted by Allah, you should enter the folds of Islam. The more you look into Islam with an honest heart, the more you will be satisfied and fulfilled. If you have any queries about Islam, you are welcome to email us. We will assist you in that.
2.Islam emphasizes on the rights of ones parents. The injunction of obedience to ones parents comes immediately after believing in the Oneness of Allah. It is immaterial if ones parents are Muslims or non-Muslims. It is compulsory for a Muslim to be respectful and humble to ones non-Muslim parents. If ones parents, Muslim or non-Muslims, are displeased with their child, that is the cause of the displeasure of Allah. In Islam, the mother’s role is three times more than a father. Our Prophet (May Peace be Upon Him) said, “
It is our opinion that if the girl’s parents are averse to you marrying their daughter and the girl is bound to her parents’ decision, then you should face reality and accept that. It is very possible that Allah has destined somebody else for you which may be better in your interest according to the infinite wisdom of Allah. You do not have to ruin your feelings behind someone which will not yield you any fulfilling response. Marriage is about peace and comfort. Look for a girl who can be part of your heart and life unreservedly.
And Allah knows best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah