I am a single man and would like to marry a divorced Christian woman with 1 child. My parents will not agree. She will accept Islam as well as the child. Is there anything wrong with this? Is there any way of making my parents understand. Will this work out ?
From a Shar’ee perspective, there is absolutely nothing wrong in marrying
her after she accepts Islam. You mention that there is a ‘possibility’ of
her accepting Islam. From experience, we find that in many a case wherein
one of the prospective parties is a non-Muslim and the other a Muslim, the
non-Muslim partner accepts Islam just for the convenience of marriage and
thereafter all is lost and he or she reverts to their old ways and culture.
The Christian culture is very different to that of Islam, hence, these are
factors to be considered. This is our general finding in instances such as
yours, however, in some very few cases, Islam is chosen and accepted with
sincerity and not for the convenience of Nikah. Thus, we advise you to
carefully ponder over your future and not to be blinded by such superficial
love. An Arabic adage goes, ‘Your love for something or someone causes you
to become blind (from the long term consequences of a rash decision taken
out of love) and deaf (from the advice of your elders and wellwishers).
May we also advise you to make of Istikhaara and seek divine guidance in
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai