Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil
Question: Assalam alaykum,
I am a convert to Islam. I befriended someone who I believe is trying to misguide me. Is it permissible for me to ignore his calls?
Answer: Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allai wa barakatuh,
I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for seeking out an answer.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet, upon him be blessings and peace, said: “The most perfect believer in respect of faith is he who is best of them in manners.” [Sunan Abi Dawud]
Your priority is to safeguard your Islam, above all else. If you do cross paths with this person, then give him salams, but do not go out of your way to spend time with him. Always uphold excellent character, no matter where you are, or who you are with.
In short, if you fear that his influence will misguide you, then it is permissible for you to ignore his calls.
It would be wise for you study at SeekersGuidance in order to lay a strong foundation in Islam. There is a wide selection of classes to choose from, and I encourage you to solidify your belief through a course such as Essentials of Islamic Belief: Dardir’s Kharida Explained.
It is important for converts like you to establish a strong support network. Find like-minded brothers you can spend time with. You will often find good people at good places such as mosques, community hubs, chaplain’s offices, and so on.
I encourage you to perform the Prayer of Need and ask Allah for support and steadfastness.
I pray that Allah strengthens your iman, sends you good company, and makes you a means of good in this world and the next. Please keep in touch with us at SeekersGuidance.
[Ustadha] Raidah Shah Idil
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil has spent almost two years in Amman, Jordan, where she learned Shafi’i’ fiqh, Arabic, Seerah, Aqeedah, Tasawwuf, Tafsir and Tajweed. She continues to study with her Teachers in Malaysia and online through SeekersGuidance Global. She graduated with a Psychology and English degree from University of New South Wales, was a volunteer hospital chaplain for 5 years and has completed a Diploma of Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. She lives in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, with her husband, daughter, and mother-in-law.