Assalamu alaykum
I hope Shaykh is well.
I have a question.
I find that whenever I make friends or get to know new people, I become a bit too attached to them. Alhamdulillah, I do not have any wrong feelings for them but I sometimes feel it is a weakness on my part that I have this attachment and start to think about them too much
Please tell me if what I am thinking is right or is it part of having love for the sake of Allah? How does a person know if it is truly love for Allah’s sake? If you think this is a weakness, can you give me something to read or do to solve the problem?
Jazakallah Shaykh
Answer
Walaikumussalam w w
We should love one another for the sake of Allah. We should also visit one another and spend on one another for the sake of Allah. It is a trait of Iman
What is wrong is when this goes against the shariah either by loving the opposite gender or by exceeding the limits e.g. Thinking about them all the time.
This type of strong connection should be with Allah rasul and our spiritual shaykh, as that benefits a person
So check yourself. If you are within limits ok. Otherwise correct yourself.
Don’t go so deep that if had to part and go your own ways you would struggle to cope
One Hadith says ‘Love your friend in moderation; he could one day become your disliked person, and dislike your hated one in moderation; He could one day become your friend’
Wassalam