Is it ok to host or attend functions like: 1. Mehndi. 2. Manje/Haldi. 3. Jumagi. 4. Birthdays. 5. Anniversaries (Marriage or Death). 6. Graduation functions. 7. Baby Showers (generally 7th month of pregnancy/sathwaasa). 8. Hadiya – Child completes the first recitation of the entire Qur’an. 9. Bismillah – When a child starts the recitation of Qur’an. 10. Chilla (40 days after birth of a child). 11. Chetti (6 days after birth of a child). 12. Ziyarat (3 days after the death of a person). 13. Chehlum (40 days after the death of a person). 14. Barsi (1 year after the death of a person). 15. Kheer-Pooriyan. 16. Saymani. 17. Niyaz. 18. Burdah-Shareef. 19. Gyarwin (11th)? Sometimes by not attending we will be causing problems within the family, and breakage of relationships, so is it better to attend?
The things you mentioned in your question such as a graduation party, party for finishing the Koran, and just for starting school are allowed to attend. The rest of the parties you mentioned are not allowed to attend some of them are just innovations and other are celebrations of non-Muslims.
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