Q: I have a matter to consult with you, can you help me? My question is that I want to marry a boy even he also want’s to marry me. We both are from pakistan. He is 25 and I am 26 but he dont have issue with the age. hHe gives me proper respect and care. We do text on wattsapp like only this much gud morning h r u ? Did have ur breakfast then at lunch then at dinner time how r your parents and that’s it we both are from same school but we started talking in 2014. The problem is his parents are not giving him permision to marry a girl out of cast he tried to convince them alot but they are not saying yes they have done same thing with his big brother and sir his big brother marry their where parents said but sir the result is very horrible sir first threeyears he was very happy with his wife but from last two years he started cheating his wife he was fully involve in non muslim women he was not having any concern for her wife he also have one daughter she is 3 years old sir he also says now he is not having any relationship with that non muslim women but he dont want more kid’s he says he is ok with one no more like all this type of things he is doing he is giving punishment to his parents by hurting that girl who is his wife and after all this still his parents are not leting him to marry where he wants to sir plz help me what he can do in this sution plz sir we both really love each other but his parents says that your big brother didnot obbeyed us now over all expations are from you we know you ill not do like how he did but sir we both love each other and wants to marry his parents also said to him that you can marry any girl from the same cast but not with me coz i am not of their cast sir i paryed allot i also offer tahajjud everyday do lots of dua fast’s every monday nd thursday and also do tasbee every time he is hafiz and from ikhlak wise he is very nice person thats y my parents also give me permison to marry him but they are saying that rizwan to come along with his parents like a proper way sir plz help me. he can also not live without me even i also sir he also said to his parents that if you are not going to say yes for her then i will never marry any other girl he also tried to convince them many but they dont want to listen plz sir help me what to ?
A: He should consult his elders and you also don’t take a decision without your elders and his elders approval.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)