Question:
Mujhay mian biwi kai rishtay kai baray main chand bunyaadi sawalat poochnay hai, please tasali baksh jawab dee jiyyay ga.
1. kia shohar ka muqam baap sai bhi ooncha hai?
2. Agar shohar ka muqam baap sai bhi oooncha hai to jis tarah maan baap ko taiz nigah sai dekhna mana hai ya uff tak kehna mana hai to shohar ka bhi yai hi mamala ho ga?
3.Agar shohar ka mamool rozana bejaaa larnay ka ho aur biwi ki ghalati bhi na ho tab bhi shohar ko jawab dena ya ghoorna mana ho ga?
4.Kia shohar sai naraaz hona sharan jayyaz hai?
Answer:
In respect, honour and obedience, the husband is like a father to the wife. This is why the wife should refrain from such acts that will cause disgrace to her husband. If the husband is on wrong, the wife should answer him in an intelligent manner. She can make his mistakes clear to him. If the husband is wrong, or he exceeds limits, which causes the wife to become angry, then she would not be a sinner, but this condition should not carry on for a long period of time. Both the husband and the wife should reconcile and live lovingly with each other. It is necessary for the husband to honour his wife. The husband should consider his wife. Instead of understanding the workers to only be workers, they should be taken as friends. Nabi (SAW) said that the best person from amongst you is that person who lives with his wife in a proper way, and I live with my wife properly. Regarding the wife, he (SAW) said that the best wife is the one who, when her husband looks at her, he becomes pleased. He should obey her in permissible activities. She should not do any such thing that causes her husband’s dislike. She should not deceive her husband in his wealth. She should not develop a relationship with any strange person. In a Hadith of Mishkaat, it comes that the woman who performs her five Salaah and she is obedient to her husband, will be entered into Jannah.
Islam teaches both the husband and the wife to consider the rights of each other and live lovingly. She should up-bring her children properly and make them upright Muslims. They should not expose each others faults, or take each other as a burden.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Mufti Muhammad Ashraf
Darul Iftaa
Jameah Mahmoodiyah
Springs
15 August 2005
09 Rajab 1426