I HAVE searched if my Q was andswered, but it hasnt been so i’m submitting it. My query is with regards to discharge and pre seminal fluids. I really cannot differemtiate between them, so how do I know when to make wudhu? Can thoughts actually lead to discharge? or only physical arousal? I have a really REALLY bad problem with this, i literally check if i have discharged between each cycle of rakats and wonder if my wudhu has broken etc. Obviously i try hard not to think about it, but if you’re married/ engaged you’ll obviously love your spouse right? So thoughts of intimacy always creep into my head, sometimes there arent even any intimate thoughts but i end up thinking what if there was and do wudhu again.
I soend more time remaking wudhu, than actually praying. Like now for example, ive been doing wudhu for just over an hour! Meaning I do wudhu, come to my room and try to clear my thoughts then i check then i doubt myself of having wudhu then i do wudhu again etc etc. I checked if i had broke my wudhu approximately 25 times in one hour and it drives me nuts! I end up crying because i have no other way to express my frustration. Im getting so fed up with this, is there any way i could probably overlook it and just READ without checking etc etc. Or like is there some distinction between normal clear discharge and pre seminal fluid? My theory from analysis is that pre seminal is greater in volume and clear discharge is less. Just as a sidenote, the reason as to why i cannot differentiate is because i constantly secrete discharge and i have been for about 4 years, so i have bern mustahadha for 4 years.
I do subtly think about intimacies like every salah which is most likely shaytaan and i realky cannot ignore it. So please dont tell me just to TRY AND CONCENTRATE cuz ive already attempted that. JazakAllah Khairan for your time and sorry it’s such a long predicament. Wassalaam Alaik
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister-in-Islam,
It is important to understand that Salāh is an act of worship whereby one is meant to release oneself from the connections of this world and bring all focus towards Allāh Ta`ālā. He the Almighty says in the Holy Qur’ān:
قَدْ أَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ، الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلَاتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ، وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ
Successful indeed are the believers. Those who offer their Salat (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness. And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allah has forbidden). [Al-Qur’ān, 23:1-3]
It is clear from your query that Shaytān is trying his best to distract you from your Salāh and avert you from gaining Allāh’s proximity by weakening your morale and convincing you that you “cannot ignore it.” By giving into Shaytān and accepting defeat, he has further forced you to make one of the most cherished acts of worship into a stressful task that plunges you into anxiety and leaves you with absolute discomfort five times a day.
It is our humble advice that before each Salāh, you pool your thoughts together, relax your inner self, and simply let yourself submerge into the realm of Salāh without paying heed to anything that crosses your mind. While doing so, make a firm resolve to practice on the following:
1) Instead of forcing yourself to rid yourself of such thoughts, let your mind go and do not let apprehension overtake you. Throughout your Salāh, keep focus on the words you are reciting and the fact that you are standing in front of your Lord. Even if such thoughts plague your mind during Salāh, let them flow in and out without forcing yourself to breakdown just so you can overcome them. Once you learn to relax your mind and let such thoughts flow freely, your mind will slowly drift away from these thoughts, and you will be able to connect yourself with Allāh Ta`ālā.
2) Instead of checking for wetness every other minute, make wudū’ and perform your Salāh without paying any heed to whether you may or may not have broken your wudū’.[1] Rid yourself of all doubts and finish your prayer without delving on such matters. In order to aid you in overcoming such thoughts, you should sprinkle an ample amount of water around your private parts after making wudū’. This way, even if your mind forces you to believe that you have broken your wudū’, you can easily assume that such wetness is just due to the water that you sprinkled and not due to any other reason.[2]
3) Frequently recite the following du`ā’ and focus on the meanings of these words:
لاَ حَوْلَ وَ لاَ قُوَّةَ إِلاَّ بِالله
Transliteration: Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illah billah
Translation: There is no might or power except with Allah.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Bilal Mohammad
Student Darul Iftaa
New Jersey, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
[1] [قال الحصكفي]شك فِي بَعْضِ وُضُوئِهِ أَعَادَ مَا شَكَّ فِيه لو في خلاله ولم يكن الشك عادة له وإلا لا.
[قال ابن عابدين] (قَوْلُهُ: وَإِلَّا لَا) أَيْ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِي خِلَالِهِ بَلْ كَانَ بَعْدَ الْفَرَاغِ مِنْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ أَوَّلَ مَا عَرَضَ لَهُ الشَّكُّ أَوْ كَانَ الشَّكُّ عَادَةً لَهُ؛ وَإِنْ كَانَ فِي خِلَالِهِ فَلَا يُعِيدُ شَيْئًا قَطْعًا لِلْوَسْوَسَةِ مِنْهُ كَمَا فِي التَّتَارْخَانِيَّة وَغَيْرِهَا
(رد المحتار علي الدر المختار، ج ١، ص ١٥٠، ايج ايم سعيد كمبني)
[2] قَالَ (وَمَنْ تَوَضَّأَ، ثُمَّ رَأَى الْبَلَلَ سَائِلًا عَنْ ذَكَرِهِ أَعَادَ الْوُضُوءَ) ؛ لِأَنَّ الْبَوْلَ سَالَ مِنْهُ، وَهُوَ نَاقِضٌ لِلْوُضُوءِ، وَإِنَّمَا قَالَ رَآهُ سَائِلًا؛ لِأَنَّ مُجَرَّدَ الْبِلَّةِ مُحْتَمَلَةٌ أَنْ تَكُونَ مِنْ مَاءِ الطَّهَارَةِ فَإِنْ عَلِمَ أَنَّهُ بَوْلٌ ظَهَرَ عَلَيْهِ فَعَلَيْهِ الْوُضُوءُ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ سَائِلًا، وَإِنْ كَانَ الشَّيْطَانُ يُرِيهِ ذَلِكَ كَثِيرًا، وَلَا يَعْلَمُ أَنَّهُ بَوْلٌ، أَوْ مَاءٌ مَضَى عَلَى صَلَاتِهِ؛ لِأَنَّهُ مِنْ جُمْلَةِ الْوَسَاوِسِ فَلَا يَلْتَفِتُ إلَيْهَا لِقَوْلِهِ – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ – «إنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَأْتِي أَحَدَكُمْ فَيَنْفُخُ بَيْنَ أَلْيَتَيْهِ، وَيَقُولُ أَحْدَثْت أَحْدَثْت فَلَا يَنْصَرِفُ حَتَّى يَسْمَعَ صَوْتًا، أَوْ يَجِدَ رِيحًا» ، وَفِي الْحَدِيثِ «أَنَّ شَيْطَانًا يُقَالُ لَهُ الْوَلَهَانُ لَا شُغْلَ لَهُ إلَّا الْوَسْوَسَةَ فِي الْوُضُوءِ» فَلَا يَلْتَفِتُ إلَى ذَلِكَ، وَيَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَنْضَحَ فَرْجَهُ، وَإِزَارَهُ بِالْمَاءِ إذَا تَوَضَّأَ قَطْعًا لِهَذِهِ الْوَسْوَسَةِ حَتَّى إذَا أَحَسَّ بِشَيْءٍ مِنْ ذَلِكَ أَحَالَهُ عَلَى ذَلِكَ الْمَاءِ، وَقَدْ رَوَى أَنَسٌ – رَضِيَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهُ – «أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ – كَانَ يَنْضَحُ إزَارَهُ بِالْمَاءِ إذَا تَوَضَّأَ» ، وَفِي بَعْضِ الرِّوَايَاتِ قَالَ «نَزَلَ عَلَيَّ جِبْرِيلُ – عَلَيْهِ السَّلَامُ -، وَأَمَرَنِي بِذَلِكَ» .
(المبسوط للسرخسي، ج ١، ص ٨٦، دار النوادر)
وَلَوْ عَرَضَ له الشَّيْطَانُ كَثِيرًا لَا يَلْتَفِتُ إلَى ذلك كما في الصَّلَاةِ وَيَنْضَحُ فَرْجَهُ بِمَاءٍ حتى لو رَأَى بَلَلًا حَمَلَهُ على بَلَّةِ الْمَاءِ هَكَذَا في الظَّهِيرِيَّةِ
(الفتاوي الهندية، ج ١، ص ٤٩، مكتبة رشيدية)