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May I convert my boyfriend for marriage?

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I have been friends with a non Muslim for 10 years. This friendship has turned into love. Being a Muslim women I know that Islam does not believe in relationships outside of marriage. I have spoken to him about converting and he is wanting to learn more about Islam. He has never followed any religion but was born in a Hindu family and does refer to himself as Hindu. My family knows about this and isn’t particularly happy about it even though he said he is willing to learn about Islam and will convert if he wishes. My question is where do I begin? My brother told me to give him the Quran because it has unknown power to change people but I don’t know what to look for. I do want to give him the Quran but do I just give English translation or is there something else that will be easier. If this doesn’t work I will have to cut all relations with him but I have done Istikara and have had positive as well as negative dreams. Please guide me in the best way to guide him towards Islam.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

You stated that your ten years of friendship with the boy in reference turned to love. It is precisely to avoid such consequences that Shari’ah has prohibited free and unrestricted interaction with the opposite gender whom are not related by blood and with whom marriage is legally possible. Repent to Allah for this violation of Shari’ah and terminate all contact with the boy. Do inform him through your brother or another male in the family that as a Muslim woman, you are not permitted to have free interaction with him and that you have erred in doing so thus far. Inform him if he wishes to marry you, he has to accept Islam. Request your male family members and other responsible people to facilitate for him to understand Islam.

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He may also be referred to Muslim converts from Hinduism who may explain to him the truthfulness of Islam from their personal experiences. Remember, if you value yourself as a precious pearl, then only will you be valued. A precious pearl is not thrown for just any person to pick up! If the boy truly accepts Islam and proposes to you thereafter, you may conduct istikharah at that time and consider the proposal. 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

AbdulMannan Nizami

Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, IL, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

www.daruliftaa.net

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