Q1. I am suffering from two prolapsed disc and pain from last couple of years. I already have kids? one boy and one girl. I cannot carry even 2 to 3 kg weight. My spinal cord starts paining. Doctors advised me not to have more children as it can lead to further herniation of my discs. My husband is not interested in having more kids but he does not want to use contraceptives. Can I go for permanent sterilization? Is it permissible in Islam as having more kids can lead to my serious physical problem? Q2. We are married from last 10 years. My husband used to do intercourse twice or max thrice a week. But now after my illness he wants to have sex nearly everyday. He is very loving and caring husband and helps me a lot but in this matter he cannot control himself. I can take bath only once in 3 to 4 days because of bad health. I was doing taymum and praying. But when ever I take bath that same day he wants to have sex. I am basically God fearing women, I feel very guilty to pray everyday only with taymum. I feel very helpless. If I keep my husband happy everyday then I have severe guilty feeling for my prayers. I cannot tolerate my husband marrying any girl and see them together. Please guide me. Please give some dua so that his sexual urge decreases a little. Q3. With taymum (instead of obligatory ghusul) can I read Quran and other suras.
1)If a reliable Muslim doctor informs you that having a child will be
detrimental to your health, and there is no hope of the situation
reversing, then only permanent sterilization will be permissible.
2)If there is genuine fear that bathing after every copulation, your
sickness will be aggravated, then it will be permissible to make
tayammum. However, the meaning of bathing is not only confines to
remaining in the shower for 15-30 minutes. It suffices in bathing even
if you take water in your hands and pass the water over your entire body
just once. If your hair is plaited, there is no need to open the plaits
if water reaches the roots of the hair. It is sufficient to pass water
over the entire plait, even if water doesn’t reach into the plaited
hair. You should therefore adopt this simple manner of bathing, and you
may request your husband to assist you. If this type of bathing will
also deteriorate your condition, you may resort to tayammum, but only
until the time when you can bath safely. (Tahtaawi pg. 91-92 Noor
Mohammad)
3)It is permissible to read the Quraan with tayammum, only if the
tayammum was performed because there was no other alternative.
(Tahtaawi)
And Allah Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai