Improving the environment of the home

Q: I had a hard married life. My husband was jealous and accused and abused me in front of all his family my kids. I went into a bad depression. My kids know what he did to me. I lived with his family and was loved by his parents. Now my kids are like him, they don’t abuse me but my daughter is very jeolous. I don’t agree with her when she say things about my daughter in-law or my niece or anyone else. She is married an we both always have problems. Please advise. I love her but she feels I hate her. How do I make her believe otherwise?


A: Speak to your daughter and family with compassion and love and avoid entering into arguments and quarrels. The more effective way is that you improve the environment of the home. Commence with the following program at home:

1. Recite some portion of the Qur’an.
2. Conduct ta’leem of Fazaa’il-e-Sadaqaat, Fazaa’il-e-A’maal and Bahishti Zewar for approximately 15 minutes in the mornings and evenings.
3. Do zikr of the kalimah, Durood Shareef and istighfaar.
4. Make a collective du’aa at the end of each session, begging Allah Ta`ala for His special help, mercy and forgiveness for oneself and the rest of the ummah.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)