Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you felt bad that day, and I pray that Allah reconciles your heart toward your father’s uncle. Try not to hold a grudge against him, but rather, look inside your heart and prioritize what matters most.
Your looks will have absolutely no bearing on you, giving your account to Allah on the Day of Judgment. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Verily Allah does not look to your faces and your wealth, but He looks to your heart and your deeds.“ [Muslim]
Understand that the modern world is obsessed with outward appearance. Still, I encourage you to rise above what does not benefit you and focus instead on your health, religion, and education. Allah doesn’t make mistakes when he creates people, and He perfectly created you. No one can claim otherwise.
Take care of yourself by eating healthy, cutting out junk food, sugar, or even wheat. Take your vitamins, exercise to be strong, and get fresh air daily. Treat this goal as fulfilling your obligation to Allah by giving your body its due right.
Take time to increase your knowledge of religion, as this is a duty upon every Muslim. Filling your heart with love of the Divine and willingness to draw closer to Him is the best means of acquiring inner peace and tranquility. The chattering of those around you will not begin to affect you by the grace of Allah. Work hard in your schooling, develop your skills, and intend to contribute something that is needed to this ummah. You will find that your looks have nothing to do with it.
Strive for light. The true beauty that a Muslim is blessed with, by Allah’s favor, is nur (light) that comes forth from the face. Obey the commands of Allah, for Allah, puts nur on the faces of those who obey and fear Him The recitation of the Qur’an and performing the prayer of tahajjud increases the glow and light on the face. Also, read this du’a for light:
Putting up with people
https://seekersguidance.org/podcast-feeds/family-society/avoid-envy/May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.