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Should I accept a marriage proposal from a previously rejected girl who now shows interest?

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assalamualikum mufti saab
Id like your advice on a marriage proposal i have received.
Two years ago i asked for the hand of a girl for marriage,before i asked i did Istikhara and received a positive sign.I went along with my Istikhara and my parents asked for this girl.After a couple of weeks i received an answer saying she was still studying to become an alima and they did not want to disrupt that.Neways i forgot about that and started to think about marriage again,when just before ramzan i received a proposal from the same girl who knocked me back 2 years ago.Ive been and seen this girl since and liked what i saw and heard from her.Apparantly they are really keen for me to say yes but i am so confused.Alhumdollialh Allah swt has given me so much..i keep on thinking why after all this time? do they want me for who i am or for what ive got? Id love to marry somebody who is pious and she fits the bill perfectly but why do i have these doubts.Ive been told by people that you should never marry an alima because it will cause trouble in the future but id love to marry somebody who has a wealth of knowledge for me to tap in2.Inshallah I will do istikhara .I hope you can give me some advice on what to do cos i really need it.
Zazakallah for your time in advance

Bismihi Ta’ala

Do not let these doubts become an obstacle. If she fits the Islamic criteria, then there should be nothing in your way. Rasoolullah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam is reported to have said: ” When the proposal of a person whos Deen and character and image you are pleased and contect with, comes your way, then marry that person. If you do not then there will be great fitnah in the earth and a widespread mischief”.(Tirmidhi)

A sincere advise would be that you go ahead with this Nikaah, as the Istikhaarah has also brought about positive signs. The information given to you that an Aalimah is trouble is nonsense and baseless. People go about making their assumptions and spread rumours to defame others. May Allah save us from this. Many people married to Aalimas have successful marriages. It is all about the individual and not the title that they hold. This is a stereotypical attitude which is incorrect.

And Allah knows best

Mufti Yaseen Shaikh

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