Does reminding someone of favours done have a negative effect on the recipient?

Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah’s guidance)

It is not true, the negative effect will be on the reminder of the favour.

Allah Ta’ala says;
“O you who believe, do not render your charity vain by reminders (of your kindness) and by injury.” (Baqarah 2:264)

Wahidi said: It means reminding the recipient about what was given to him. Kalbi said: It means reminding Allah that one has given charity and making hurtful remarks to the recipient.

The Prophet (salallahu alihi wa sallam) said:
“The cheat, the miserly one, and the recounter of favours will not enter the garden.” (Nasai)

Also Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Beware of reminding others of the favours you have done them, because that destroys thankfulness and cancels out the reward.” The Prophet then recited the verse quoted above.

Ibn Sirin heard one man telling another: “I did such and such favours to you. I did this , I did that. ” Ibn Sirin told him: “Be quiet! There is no good in being kind to others if you keep recounting it.”

Another scholar said; “Reminding the recipient of a favour destroys the gratitude shown for it, and being proud of a deed destroys its reward.” (Al-Kabair Pg. 162,163)

And Only Allah Ta’ala Knows Best.

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Moulana Qamruz Zaman
London, UK