Q: My wife habitually tells me you must be doing something wrong, when I follow instructions and they do not work. Today I lost my temper and said to her as follows:
- Don’t insult me ok
- You talk to me like I am thick
- It gets bloody annoying
- You do it all the time, talk to me like I am idiot
- I can read, I am not thick. You talk to me like I am thick
- know how to follow bloody instructions.
- I am fed up of you
The intention of divorce was in my mind at the time as I was so angry. Would this constitute divorce? At this moment in time, whilst typing this, I am still so angry that I am thinking I don’t care if it constitutes divorce. I want it to constitute divorce. I may have made other statements alluding to divorce but can’t recall what they are. They would have been similar to the aforementioned statements. Should I find out from my wife what I said?
A: No. This does not constitute divorce.
باب الكنايات ( كنايته ) عند الفقهاء ( ما لم يوضع له ) أي الطلاق ( واحتمله وغيره ( ف ) الكنايات ( لا تطلق بها ) قضاء ( إلا بنية أو دلالة الحال ) وهي حالة مذاكرة الطلاق أو الغضب فالحالات ثلاث رضا وغضب ومذاكرة والكنايات ثلاث ما يحتمل الرد أو ما يصلح للسب أو لا ولا ( فنحو اخرجي واذهبي وقومي ) تقنعي تخمري استتري انتقلي انطلقي اغربي اعزبي من الغربة أو من العزوبة ( يحتمل ردا ونحو خلية برية حرام بائن ) (الدر المختار 3/ 296- 300)
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)