Q: I have a problem and will be very thankful to you for your kind reply and suggestion. I am 26 years old an orphan and have two siblings. After completing my MSC I started a job in a multinational company and I am am still working there. I started this job because in my family no one was able to earn. Dad left a little amount in a bank account and it’s interest was not enough to fulfil a homes needs. My brother was unemployed and still is. My elder sister is mentally disabled moreover my mom is also very old in age and sever patient of arthritis. When I started working, I was a person full of spirit, ambitious, warm hearted full of fashion and style and confident but with the passage of time due to unsolved domestic problems unwanted burden gradually I become complex, depressed, coward, frustrated, disappointed, isolated,boring, fedup from life. I left all kinds of sins that I used to do like watching dramas, movies, songs, back biting, fun related activities, outing with friends, makeup, fancy dressings, arguing, attending marriages and in addition to this I try to be engaged with religious activities (namaaz, reciting Qur’an, good deeds) with the hope that in this way Allah will become happy on me and may be my issues are not resolved but I will at least be able to cope with this. But something seems to be missing! I don’t know what and how could I know? How should I repent? What should I leave out? What should I pick? Where am I going wrong? I am totally lost! I Don’t know which direction should I go! From where should I take guidelines! My mom is getting ill day by day, sister always up day and night in a disturbed mood disturbing all with foolish activities! Brother always stays out. I know my home people are in need of my special care but what I do when I myself not able to take care of even myself. I always feel like a lost and crying baby! My job is like intoxication for me where I could forget everything rather to stay at home or attending family functions make me frustrated and more complex. I know I have a blessed life compare to a lot of people in this world and burden is nothing the others are bearing. My deprivation is nothing compared to others but I fail to make my heart understand.
A: A Mu’min, in whichever condition he may be, should turn to Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى). The solutions of all problems lie in the hands of Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى). In order for one to receive the mercy of Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) and barkat in his life, one should ensure that he is leading a life according to the Sunnah and not displeasing Allah Ta’ala at any time. Be conscious of observing purdah, guarding the eyes and the tongue and performing the five daily Salaah on it’s prescribed time. Recite one thousand one hundred times يَا لَطِيْفُ after Esha Salaah with reciting eleven times durood shareef before and after. May Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) assist you and remove your difficulties.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Checked & Approved: