Extra marital affairs

Q: I am married to a girl. In my short age and its five years of marriage now she is not taking care of me and my family. We have done love marriage and no one is happy. She is also involved with another guy also. I forgave her a lot of times but she didn’t become true again. Now I have left her at her home and want a divorce from her and even I have contact with another girl who loves me a lot and even we have close relation like we have done kisses and hugs not more than that. I also want to marry her. Could you please tell me is my nikaah already raised with her and what will I do to solve this problem because my first wife don’t want to leave me and this one also don’t want to leave me as we are in a close relation?


A: There is no need to not know what to do. If you feel that you are not able to manage her, then with respect and dignity separate her, and get into a halaal relationship by making nikaah with a second woman.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلَّا أَن يَخَافَا أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّـهِ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّـهِ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّـهِ فَلَا تَعْتَدُوهَا وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللَّـهِ فَأُولَـئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ ﴿٢٢٩﴾ فَإِن طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِن بَعْدُ حَتَّى تَنكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَإِن طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يَتَرَاجَعَا إِن ظَنَّا أَن يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّـهِ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّـهِ يُبَيِّنُهَا لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ ﴿٢٣٠﴾  (سورة البقرةالآية 229-230)

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)