Marrying a girl who was engaged to one’s cousin

Q: I have an important question. There is a girl whom my cousin was previously in love with. The whole family knew and since he was still studying, the family wanted to marry them once my cousin’s studies were over. After a year, for some family reasons, my cousin left the girl. I know that girl and I want to  marry her and she too wants the same. When my parents and the girl’s parent came to know about this, they are telling us that this is not possible, my cousin won’t like it, what other people will say, what elders will say etc. In my point of view, its more society and culture thinking. I wanted to know what Islam says about this? What is the view?


A: It is permissible for you to marry the girl. However, it is better to listen to your parents and avoid any commotion within the family. 

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

وعن أبي الدرداء أن رجلا أتاه فقال: إن لي امرأة وإن لي أمي تأمرني بطلاقها؟ فقال له أبو الدرداء: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: «الوالد أوسط أبواب الجنة فإن شئت فحافظ على الباب أو ضيع» . رواه الترمذي وابن ماجه (مشكاة #4928)

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)