Q: A family whom were having feud for many years sat down to resolve certain issues they were having. From the initial stage, there was shouting and yelling and they seems to be at each other’s throat. The meeting was adjourned with advice of one of the six brothers who mentioned there will be no barakat or success since we left out the name of Allah Ta’ala and Durood on Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and due to the extreme anger of the brothers. We mentioned that there is a proper way to conduct these gatherings which are governed by the Shariah and life of our Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam. We informed them that we will attain these rules and regulations from the Ulema-a-Karam. With this said it was agreed that another meeting will met set. Can mufti Saheb give us these rules and regulations so that we all can follow them? How should these gathering be conducted? If someone gets angry and starts fuming their anger at each other, how should we calm them down or what should others do? How would and should an Alim conduct these feud and conflicts?
A: In a mashwara (meeting), all people should not be included. Apart from those who the matter relates to, only those people who are of sound understanding should be included in the mashwara. If the parties cannot reach a conclusion then alternatively the problem with all it’s related issue’s should be documented and presented to a learned, pious, experienced, and muttaqi Aalim. Whatever solution the Aalim presents in the light of Shariah should be thereafter followed. If the parties are unclear in regard to any issue regarding the solution given by the Aalim, they should refer back to the Aalim for clarity. Insha-Allah in this manner the problem will be amicably solved.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)