Choosing a daughter in law

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Q: My son is 20 years old and wants to get married. We know that we should not stop him. The girl however is not of good character. On the one hand we are taught to choose a spouse of good character and on the other hand we are taught to forgive and assist with reformation of character. Which takes presidence? Do we allow and guide her or do we say no to the marriage?


A: Both are important, to teach right values and to get the children settled into a marriage.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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