Answered by Shaykh Yūsuf Badāt
Question:
What is the ruling on a woman who refuses her husband to see the children? Also, what is the ruling on women who claim their husband’s assets after divorce?
Answer:
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Jazāk Allāh Khayr/ Thank you for contacting Mathābah Institute.
A woman who refuses her husband access to his children without any legitimate islamicaly appropriate reason, falls in the category of those breaking ties. Such a person according to Islam, is under the wrath [curse] of the Almighty and deprived of Allāh’s special mercy.
“So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship? Those [who do so] are the ones that Allāh has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision.” – (Qur’ān 47:22)[1]
Allāh’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Allāh created the creation, and when He finished from His creation the raḥm (womb) got up, and Allāh said [to it], “Stop! What do you want?” It said, “At this place I seek refuge with You from all those who sever me (sever the ties of kinship.)” Allāh said, “Would you be pleased that I will join my special mercy with the one who will keep good relations, and I will deprive my mercy from the one who will sever relations.” It said, “Yes, ‘O my Lord.” Allāh said [to it], “That is for you.” – (Bukhārī 7502)[2]
It is islamicaly prohibited for a spouse to unrightfully claim or take the wealth or property of her partner after divorce. In Islam, each partner can only take what belongs to them. To take someone else’s property or wealth without their consent is considered theft and a major sin in Islam, even if this is done by taking advantage of a legal system in a non-muslim court.
“The wealth of another person [and or believer] is not permissible except with their willingful permission.” – (Musnad Aḥmad 21082)[3]
“And whoever betrays, [taking wealth unlawfully], will come with what they took on the Day of Resurrection [for judgment before Allāh]. Then will every soul be [fully] compensated for what it earned, and they will not be wronged.” – (Qurʾān 3:161)[4]
Only Allāh knows best
[1] فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ – سورة محمد ١١
[2] عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رضى الله عنه أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ خَلَقَ اللَّهُ الْخَلْقَ فَلَمَّا فَرَغَ مِنْهُ قَامَتِ الرَّحِمُ فَقَالَ مَهْ قَالَتْ هَذَا مَقَامُ الْعَائِذِ بِكَ مِنَ الْقَطِيعَةِ فَقَالَ أَلاَ تَرْضَيْنَ أَنْ أَصِلَ مَنْ وَصَلَكِ وَأَقْطَعَ مَنْ قَطَعَكِ قَالَتْ بَلَى يَا رَبِّ قَالَ فَذَلِكِ لَكِ – رواه البخاري ٧٥٠٢
[3] لا يحل مال امرئ مسلم إلا بطيب نفسه منه – رواه أحمد ٢١٠٨٢
[4] وَمَن يَغْلُلْ يَأْتِ بِمَا غَلَّ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ ۚ ثُمَّ تُوَفَّىٰ كُلُّ نَفْسٍ مَّا كَسَبَتْ وَهُمْ لَا يُظْلَمُونَ – سورة آل عمران ١٦١