Taking a second wife

Q: I am 35 years old. Married with children. I have decided to take a second wife. I told my wife everything that had happened and want to take a second wife, but she refuses to agree. I do know that I do not need her permission but I would like to get her permission because she is important to me. The second lady has read her isthikaara and has accepted to be my second wife, she fully understands the regulations of being a second wife. Could you please assist with my problem.


A: Since you desire that your first wife should be in full agreement, the better approach will be to persuade her first in a respectable and kind manner.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)