Marital problems

Q: My husband had an affair then married without my knowledge. She eventually left him cause he refused to leave me. I am lost as I have just found out she gives him ultimatums either me or her. A fasak is sacred, there is no making up according to my knowledge. Then to top it all messages from another female he is having an affair again. I am so hurt. I am the only one working. People say I should have myself seen too cause there is too much hasad on me. I feel Allah protects us all. I was told not to get off my chair meaning not to leave my husband. But what must I do because he clearly doesn’t love me. I am the only one working and cannot get leave to go to MJC. I am the sole provider for my family. He refuses to leave me on paper but he has moved out and says he doesn’t want me. This happened before then he just pitches up again speaks nicely then comes home. This time its the worst and I feel hurt and betrayed. I need counselling. I don’t know where to go for this Please advise.


A: We suggest that if you are finding it difficult then just continue with him and consult your parents and elders. They should look into the matter. If it is that he is overall a good person but there is some misunderstanding that is creating this indifferent feeling then look at how best you can overcome the situation.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)