Q: Is it permissible to me to ask for 1 date for my mahr? I would like to ask my fiancee to go to the poorest date seller, ask him how
much 1 kg of dates cost (f.e. 10 Dinar) and ask him how many family member he has (f.e. with him included there are 6 people living with him) so my fiancee should multiply the cost of 1kg of dates with the family members (inc. the date seller). f.e. 60 Dinars. So I want my fiancee to pay the date seller 60 Dinars, but take only 1 Date as my mahr and leave the others to the date seller as a sadaqa. I would like to eat the date with my fiancee’s mother and my mother, and plant it to a tree (in shaa allah). I also would ask (as part of my mahr) for the surah mulk to get recited by him from his heart.
Is this permissible that he give me this 1 date + reciting one surah under such extraordinary circumstances? Or is the mahr void if I just ask for that?
A: Leave all these fancy thoughts. It is not right for you to get into a casual conversation with a man who you are not yet married to. After the nikaah has been done you may do some charitable work if you wish. These types of acts of planting date trees in the way you have explained is all superstitious and baseless.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.