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Brother Beat Me Up and Insulted Me – How to Handle Family Conflict

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Q: Three months back me and my elder brother had a fight. We both are married Masha Allah. I have twin 6 years old daughters. In that fight my brother beat me up in front of his wife my daughters and my mother’s home servant. After I got beaten by my brother and when he called me “awaara” just because I did love marriage, so many years had past but after listening such words I got angry in reaction. I said bad words. I said abusive words for my brother’s father in-law who is also my uncle. Day by day my uncle’s family had stuffed so much hatred for our family specially me. I am 29 years old. I feel so hurt because I lost my respect. I am ashamed. Now my uncle’s family after knowing that I said bad words they are insulting my mother and me. He said my brother did right if he beats me because I said bad words for him and his daughter. This was not true. My brother beat me first in that fight, he got abusive first. It was only my reaction what should I do. Does Islam allow a man or a brother to beat his sister like this for no reason. Kindly explain what should I do?


A: This behaviour is not an acceptable behaviour. However, the greater thing is to forgive each another and resume normal relation. For the future, be very careful of the use of the tongue. Don’t say anything that will provoke or don’t become too casual with someone that may provoke you.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.

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