Assalam alikum please tell me in detail how i can get out of this situation
Sometime ago i made a statement it was either:
1.(if i get married then i am not kafir/ if i dont get married then i am kafir)
2. If i get married then i am kafir .
I dont remember which one but it was either of the two (most certainly the 1st one 90% sure)
I know i made a foolish and grave mistake i am fearful to the point of shaking i dont remember my intentions neither i knew islamic ruling regarding it .
If i talk about 1ST statement i didn’t had any intention of getting married i dont know why i said those stupid things i am under constant fear what will happen if i die like this (unmarried ) and will i become kafir. Will i remain kafir if didn’t get married i repeat shahadah many times but feel like commiting kufr due to first statement.
Plese tell me how to get out of this oath i have few legal issues and i cant get married plese tell me how can i break this oath anything expitation begging Allah for mercy and forgiveness what should i do to absolve my self from this oath (can i say i broke my oath and pay expitation and repent how should i break my oath)
Answer
Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
Alhamdulillah, you realise you made a grave mistake. In future, please do be vigilant and do not utter statements like these.
Your statements will be regarded as an oath. As such, you should pay the Kaffarah two times: One time for not getting married at present, and one time after you get married.
The kaffarah for breaking an oath is:
1. Freeing a slave (not applicable in today’s times), or
2. Feeding ten poor people two average meals, or
3. Clothing ten poor people with average clothes.
If one cannot fulfill any of the any of the above three for a valid reason, then he may fast for three consecutive days.
And Allaah Ta’aala knows best
Wassalaam,
Ismail Moosa (Mufti)
References
ولو قال إن فعل كذا فهو يهودي أو نصراني أو مجوسي أو بريء عن الإسلام أو كافر أو يعبد من دون الله أو يعبد الصليب أو نحو ذلك مما يكون اعتقاده كفرا فهو يمين استحسانا والقياس أنه لا يكون يمينا وهو قول الشافعي وجه القياس أنه علق الفعل المحلوف عليه بما هو معصية فلا يكون حالفا كما لو قال إن فعل كذا فهو شارب خمرا أو آكل ميتة (بدائع الصنائع – 3/ 8)