Q:
1. I was unfortunately involved in an illicit relationship with a girl who was in the same class as me. This was last year and it was the final year. With the Fazal Karam and Ihsaan of Allah Ta’ala I changed my life. Allah Ta’ala gave me the Taufeeq to not let my gaze fall on this female from just before Ramadan till now. The only contact we had after Allah Ta’ala guided me was I sent her an email with past exam papers which seemed to me as a necessity. May Allah Ta’ala keep us guided and save us from the traps of naffs and shaytaan the accursed. However, before turning away, the human feeling of emotion made me tell her that I would still want to marry her, etc. I don’t know if she is “waiting for me” or what. After listening to advices and bayanaat of the pious, I would like to do my nikaah as right as possible and in in a manner that’s most pleasing to Allah Ta’ala so it can be full of barqat. Something that started of with haraam can not be the best way to go forward. My heart is not inclined towards something that was a means of me displeasing Allah Ta’ala. What should I do? I have intention of settling down Insha Allah.
2. I had a dream of my madressa principal saheb (D.B) informing me that he was fortunate to have me as a student in his madressa. The total opposite is true.
A:
1. Your reasoning is incorrect. You had lured the girl and she must have also attracted you. So both are equally guilty. It is appropriate that if you have a liking for each other then arrange the marriage with the consent of your elders and commit yourself to righteousness after repenting and asking Allah’s forgiveness.
2. Continue with the good teaching and good advices that were imparted to you by your madrasah.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)