Attending gatherings wherein bid’aat take place

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As Salaamu Alaykum

Kindly advise,
What does a person do in the case of being forced to attend and assist at a gathering wherein bid’ah (salaami) etc. takes place?

His situation is such that it is a very close relatives function and by him not attending it creates problems in the family.



Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

Shariah has emphasised the maintaing of family ties and warned against severing contact with our family.

Allah Taala mentions in the Holy Quran,

وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ

“… and fear Allāh through whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut) family ties. (Surah an-Nisaa, verse 1)

وَآتِ ذَا الْقُرْبَى حَقَّهُ وَالْمِسْكِينَ

“And give to the relative his due and to the poor.” (Surah al-Israa, verse 36)

The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said,

«مَنْ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يُبْسَطَ لَهُ فِي رِزْقِهِ، وَيُنْسَأَ لَهُ فِي أَثَرِهِ، فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ»

“He who desires ample provisions and a prolonged life, should maintain good ties with his blood relations” (Sahih al-Bukhari, , 4/490)

Thus, we should always endevour to maintain family ties.

On the contrary, however, we cannot compromise our beliefs because of family. The laws of Allah will always be given preferance.

As for attending and assisting with this gathering, it will be permissible to attend, only if the following three conditions are found:

1) It is a once off gathering,
2) You are sure that the organisers do not believe that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) is attending this gathering,
3) There will not be any other impermissible acts which are common in such gatherings, example: music, intermingling of sexes etc.

If these three conditions are found, it will be fine to attend and assist. Make the intention of Da’wah, unity and family ties.

However, if this is a continuous gathering, or the organisers have incorrect beliefs regarding the gathering, or there will be clear violations of Shari’ah, then you will have to abstain. It will not be permissible to attend, even if they are close family.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best


Ismail Moosa (Mufti)


 ومن جملة ما أحدثوه من البدع مع اعتقادهم أن ذلك من أكبر العبادات وإظهار الشعائر ما يفعلونه في شهر ربيع الأول من مولد وقد احتوى على بدع ومحرمات جملة. فمن ذلك استعمالهم المغاني ومعهم آلات الطرب من الطار المصرصر والشبابة وغير ذلك مما جعلوه آلة للسماع… وقد تقدم ما في مولد الرجال من البدع والمخالفة للسلف الماضين – رضي الله عنهم – أجمعين فكيف إذا فعله النساء لا جرم أنهن لما فعلنه ظهرت فيه عورات جملة ومفاسد عديدة فمنها ما تقدم في مولد الرجال من أنه يكون بعض النساء ينظر إلى الرجال فيقع ما يقع من التشويش بين الرجل وأهله بسبب ذلك [المدخل لابن الحاج، ج٢، ص٢)

  “اس طرح کی تقريبات ميں شرکت کرنا نا جائز ہے اور جہاں احکام شرعيہ کی خلاف ورزی ہو رہی ہو اور منکرات موبود ہوں وہاں اکل و شرب يعنی کہانا پينا نا جائز ہے” (فتاوی حقانيۃ 2/396 – جامعہ دار العلوم حقانيہ)

“جس دعوت ميں غير شرعی امور کا ارتکاب ہوتا ہے اور آدمی کو پہلے سے اس کا علم ہو، اس ميں جانا حرام ہے” (آپ کے مسائل اور ان کا حل 7166)

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