What is the best course of action for me and my wife?

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah Hajrat mufti shahab I have three questions to ask 1.i recently I got married last year I spent 50 days with my wife after I back to UAE she become pregnant we because of some family problem she decided to leave me there is nothing mistaken from me or from my family and each and every time I did moshwara with my ameer shahab and ulama unfortunately one I was talking to her by phone she were so excited at that time I use that word I gives you 1 talak this word repeatedly come out twice from my mouth my neeatt not to give talak just to threat her to become cool down at that time she is pregnet for 4 months after we continuing our communication each others again its happened after delivery a baby boy I used the same word that I gives you 2nd talak now she change her mind she want to continue her life with me I did moshwara with 2 alim and ameer shahab stated them all details what happened from the beginning they said she is dangerous for deen and dunia they give ijajot to divorce her in this situation how many talak will be counted and should I follow the advice (moshwara) of them I loved her a lots once I feel I will accept her again and tolerate all her zulm may be Allah will give me jaja in akirat what shall I do in this situation please reply me 2. I want to send my brother to study in deaoband embassy of India refused visa because of world situation how can I send him to sohbote ahlullah in deaoband or let him to study in darul ulum hathajari which is a graet qaumi madrasa in Bangladesh 3.i heard bayan of moulana rehman usmani and moulana rab nawas hanafi of pakistan that they said ustad of moulvi kala hajrat ahmed raza was mirja gulam kader brothe of murtad qadiany is it true Thanks a lots allah gives you jaja and I pray to allah to create many ulemas and muftis such as shaikul hind,goagoohi,nanutwi.kashmiri and other akabir e ulama e deoband