Without being bias or allowing your emotions to control you, you will accept
that you have certain rights over your husband and he has certain rights
over you. If he does not fulfil your rights, he will be answerable to Allah
Ta’ala on the day of Qiyaamat and if you don’t fulfil his rights, the same
will apply to you. Therefore, womanising doesn’t give you the certificate to
disobey him and stop fulfilling his rights.
Being his wife, you still have to obey him as long as his request is not in
conflict with the Shari’ah. As for his womanising, it is a sin like any
other sin. Therefore, you should treat him just as you would have if he was
involved in another sin. Never confront him regarding his sin, if you feel
that it may lead to the destruction of the marriage. Rather, make Du’aafor
his guidance and reformation. Make life more interesting and exciting for
him at home and adopt Sabr. It will be difficult for you, but you will have
to do it for the sake of your marriage and children. His womanising will,
Insha Allah, stop. It is just a phase that he is going through. He can’t
continue womanising for his entire life. If you deem it appropriate, you may
accompany him when he goes outdoors. May Allah Ta’ala grant you Sabr and
grant your husband the Tawfeeq to mend his ways and repent from his sin as
quick as possible.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.