I’m in a polygyny marriage and my husband seems to not understand his responsibility of maintenance. I worked and pay all of my bills myself. When I speak to him about puting the responsibility of the maintenance of the house on me. He gives me some excuse because I was pertaining myself before he married me, hes not obligated to provide in maintenance. The situation has really tested my patience. I told him since I am to maintain myself then he is to please his own desires. Now my husband said I’m disobedient.
At the outset, according to Shari’ah, it is not permissible for a female to
work for no reason. Since you have a husband who is able to maintain you,
you should not work.
It is the sole responsibility of the husband to maintain his wife.
Maintenance includes, food, clothing and shelter. It is incorrect for the
husband to demand from the wife to execute his responsibilities. If he has
the means to maintain his wife and he does not do so, he will be sinful.
Women who work and have an income are also responsible for their husband’s
negligence in maintaining them.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai