I am a married woman married for 2 years now but some thing happened in the beginning of my marriage which keeps me mentally very distressed as I have been a very religious person and the nature of the matter was such that I was too much scared to disclose it to anyone.
Finding your website made me very happy I want a detailed answer if was possible for you please. Allah will reward you for easing my mind in anyways that you do it..
I was born and lived in KSA for 18 years but then had to come all alone to Pakistan for the sake of education. For 5 years I lived here all by myself in the girls hostel and Alhamdulillah I lived a good life and Allah helped me a lot as the environment around wasn’t very good. After completion of the 5 years education there is one year training too. My mother just came for a visit in that 6th year. Me and my mother lived in a house owned by my mother’s second cousin as we had no other place. My engagement took place during that stay in only my mother’s presence. I did not know the man but agreed as it was my parent’s wish. The ceremony was conducted by the second cousin of my mother who was unfortunately not our well wisher and he tried to ruin everything so many times. Me and my mother and the other party wanted to do the nikah as my mother had to go back to KSA and I was supposed to stay alone again but the second cousin didn’t agree and as we were women, it wasn’t in our hands. After this my mother left and I went back to the hostel. My husband also used to stay in a hostel as he was doing training too in some hospital and his family lived in a far off area. My husband started talking to me on phone after taking permission from my father. After that he started taking me outside too. I was against all that but I was too much scared and I couldn’t say anything to him and I couldn’t say anything at all to my parents. My husband insisted that nikah is done as it just needs the agreement of the girl and the boy in the presence of wali and witnesses and that was all done. He said that khutba nikah was said too by his father. He convinced me and said that it is wrong for you to stay in the hostel alone while im now your husband. So he brought me to his room and we stayed in that room for about 2 3 months and slept together too. After that my family came from KSA and we did the official nikah and soon after the wedding..
My husband is Alhamdulillah a very good husband but the 3 months that I have lived with him with a doubtful nikah depresses me all the time as I feel I have ruined my afterlife no matter how much happy I am..
Can you please tell me in light of the knowledge Allah has given you is that 2 3 months considered sinful? And if yes what should be done? What is the Islamic order regarding this..?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
- What exchanges took place in the engagement ceremony?
- What were the exact exchanges?
- Who was there?
We understand there were four people; your mother, the cousin, your ‘husband’ and yourself.
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Student Darul Iftaa
Limbe, Malawi
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