I am going to be married to a muslim man who is already married. What i want to know and shy to ask him, is ,if three of us will get involved. What i mean by that is, can he ask us both to be in bed with him. Is that one of his rights?
Answer:
In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh
The laws of Satar (exposing of private parts) are relaxed between a man and his wives however, such laws are not relaxed between the co-wives. Hence, it is not permissible to have intercourse with more than one wife at the same time, due to the satar being exposed between the co-wives. Furthermore, the husband cannot argue this as one of his right’s nor do the wives’ need to obey him on this aspect.
(Raddul Muhtaar, Vol.6, Pg.371, HM Saeed)[1]
(Bahishti Zewar, Pg.347, Zam Zam)
(Ftaawa Mahmudiyyah, Vol.19, Pg.239, Faruqiyah)
(Al Hindiyyah, Vol.5, Pg.327, Rasheediyah)
And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum
Ml. Ebrahim Desai,
Student Dārul Iftā
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Dārul Iftā, Madrasah In῾āmiyyah
[1]وَتَنْظُرُ الْمَرْأَةُ الْمُسْلِمَةُ مِنْ الْمَرْأَةِ كَالرَّجُلِ مِنْ الرَّجُلِ ) وَقِيلَ كَالرَّجُلِ لِمَحْرَمِهِ وَالْأَوَّلُ أَصَحُّ سِرَاجٌ ( وَكَذَا ) تَنْظُرُ الْمَرْأَةُ( مِنْ الرَّجُلِ ) كَنَظَرِ الرَّجُلِ لِلرَّجُلِ ( إنْ أَمِنَتْ شَهْوَتَهَا ) فَلَوْ لَمْ تَأْمَنْ أَوْ خَافَتْ أَوْ شَكَّتْ حَرُمَ اسْتِحْسَانًا كَالرَّجُلِ هُوَ الصَّحِيحُ فِي الْفَصْلَيْنِ تَتَارْخَانِيَّةٌ مَعْزِيًّا لِلْمُضْمَرَاتِ