Following are my friends question please tell her according to Quran and Hadees. “I got married almost one month ago. I am 26 years old. Alhamdulillah, I have spent my young age in a great piety. I always take hijab since the age of puberty. And I never ever imagined to go against the teachings of Islam. By the grace of Allah, I found a very pious husband. I am very much satisfied with him except in sexual gratification. He discharges his sperms very early during our sexual intercourse and I remain dissatisfied. Because of shyness, I can’t tell him this. My questions is: (1) What should I do regarding this? (2) Can he put his finger inside my private parts (3) What are sex-toys? Can we use it? (4) Can a wife hold the penis of her husband and masturbate it? (5) Can a husband kiss and suck the breasts of his wife? (6) Can a husband lie down and the wife lets his private part go into her private part by sitting vertically (7) Is it permissible in Islam to attain any position during the intercourse provided that there is no anal sex at all?”
This is not favorable but it is not impermissible. If there is a desire for this than a women should not stop it. While cohabiting it is permissible to excite one another with some object, however this would not be allowed with ‘masnoo’ie’
material. A person should be careful so that the milk would not go below the throat because drinking of milk is impermissible. There is no specific way to cohabit with one’s wife, excluding the exceptions everything is allowed whether it is done while standing, sitting, or lying down.