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please could you also tell me a dua that can lessen the burden of guilt and disgust from my heart and a dua that i can ask for forgiveness.
Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem
Al Jawaab Billahit-Tawfeeq Respected questioner, One of the signs of a believer is that after committing a sin, they feel guilty about it. So it is a good sign that you have a feeling of guilt about your action. If sincere repentance (Tawbah) is made then Insha Allah the sin will be forgiven as long as you are not withholding a right of an individual. The best Dua I can prescribe for you is to start obeying Allah. In which ever manner virginity may have been lost You do not need to tell your husband that you are not a virgin. Similarly if married but before intercourse, divorce(Talaaq) was recieved or the couple separated due to the husband being impotent or he had died(before intercourse) she would still be classed as a Virgin (Bakirah). Nikah (marriage) after which intercourse takes place will make her a non-virgin (thayibbah) [1] [1] (قَوْلُهُ إنْ لَمْ يَتَكَرَّرْ وَلَمْ تُحَدَّ بِهِ) هَذَا مَعْنَى قَوْلِهِمْ إنْ لَمْ يَشْتَهِرْ زِنَاهَا يَكْتَفِي بِسُكُوتِهَا لِأَنَّ النَّاسَ عَرَفُوهَا بِكْرًا، فَيَعِيبُونَهَا بِالنُّطْقِ، فَيَكْتَفِي بِسُكُوتِهَا كَيْ لَا تَتَعَطَّلَ عَلَيْهَا مَصَالِحُهَا، وَقَدْ نَدَبَ الشَّارِعُ إلَى سَتْرِ الزِّنَا فَكَانَتْ بِكْرًا شَرْعًا بِخِلَافِ مَا إذَا اشْتَهَرَ زِنَاهَا رد المحتار علي الدرالمختار شرح تنوير الأبصار – كتاب النكاح – باب الولي الجزء الرابع، صفحة ١٦٦، دار عالم الكتب الرياض) وَفِي الظَّهِيرِيَّةِ الْبِكْرُ اسْمٌ لِامْرَأَةٍ لَمْ تُجَامَعْ بِنِكَاحٍ وَلَا غَيْرِهِ قِيلَ: هَذَا قَوْلُهُمَا، وَأَمَّا عِنْدَ أَبِي حَنِيفَةَ بِالْفُجُورِ وَلَا يَزُولُ اسْمُ الْبَكَارَةِ وَلِهَذَا تُزَوَّجُ عِنْدَهُ مِثْلَ مَا تُزَوَّجُ الْأَبْكَارُ إلَّا أَنَّ الصَّحِيحَ أَنَّ هَذَا قَوْلُ الْكُلِّ؛ لِأَنَّ فِي بَابِ النِّكَاحِ الْحُكْمُ يَنْبَنِي عَلَى الْحَيَاءِ وَأَنَّهُ لَا يَزُولُ بِهَذَا الطَّرِيقِ اهـ. And Allah knows best ————————————– |